Hello Friends, let's talk about feeding our babes....
Bringing a new baby into the world is beautiful, messy, and full of decisions—one of the most emotional being how to feed your little one. With so much information (and unsolicited advice!) floating around, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. That’s why I am here to remind you: Fed is best. Whether you’re breastfeeding, formula feeding, pumping, or doing a little of everything—you're doing great, mama (and daddy).
This post really is for my mamas though. Dad's while you do play a very important role in the life of a newborn, the feeding "weight" really presses upon us as mothers... and I say this from experience. I choose to formula feed both of my babies. Now, I was SO very nervous about this before having Katie Ruth. I thought I would be shamed in the hospital for my choice. Good news, I wasn't. BUT I will say I have personally witnessed 3 moms be made to feel bad after just have birthed their babies, for choosing formula.
I am NOT a doctor, or health care professional, but I have spent time with thousands of new mothers -- yes thousands -- and I have to say if I were going to put a percentage out there, I would guesstimate that 95% of all mothers (first-time and lifer) have had some issue with feeding their baby(s). It is just HARD. It is. No matter which route you choose, or heck, which route might be chosen for you (for one reason or another) it is just HARD. Both of my babies had dairy and reflux issues. Katie Ruth was allergic to dairy until she was two years old and Dalton would literally SCREAM through his entire bottle and then puke it right up. It was so beyond defeating.
I have spoken with moms, who when asked what they wanted to do (before baby was born) about feeding... were very open to formula and bottle feeding. Then they had the baby and for one reason or another REALLY wanted to breastfeed. However, sometimes... many times, that journey is not easy. It can be isolating. You can feel so alone and like a failure if your boobs aren't producing, if your baby isn't latching, if you are trying to feed exclusive to the breast.
It is HARD, all of it. And there is no ONE right answer. What is right for you and your baby, IS the perfect thing!
Here are a few thoughts...
No matter your method—formula, pumping, or breastfeeding—the most important thing is that your baby is nourished and loved. There’s no prize for doing it a certain way, only the peace of knowing your baby is growing and thriving.
Feeding isn’t one-size-fits-all. What works for one baby might not work for another, and that’s okay. The best choice is the one that keeps both you and your baby happy and healthy.
Sometimes, a little perspective can help drown out the noise:
The Average Mom Breastfeeds for 6 Months: But every day, week, and month counts—there’s no ‘perfect’ duration.
1 in 3 Parents Change Their Feeding Plan: It’s normal to adapt and find what truly works for your family. (Source: AAP)
Nearly 80% of Moms Say They Needed Support: You’re not alone. Asking for help is strong. (Source: CDC)
Feeding Flexibility is Key: Many parents use a mix of methods to fit their lifestyle—and that’s a win.
Each method has its own perks:
Formula Feeding: Flexibility, shared responsibility, and peace of mind knowing exactly how much baby is getting.
Pumping: Offers breastmilk benefits with a schedule that fits your life—and lets others help feed!
Breastfeeding: Natural bonding, convenience, and hey—you’re saving money on formula and pump parts.
Whether you’re bottle prepping, warming milk, or nursing in the dark at 2 a.m., here are a few sanity-saving tips:
Formula: Choose a brand that fits your baby’s tummy—and your budget.
Pumping: Make it part of your routine—consistency helps with supply.
Breastfeeding: Prioritize rest and nourishment, and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Lactation consultants can be amazing!
Let’s not forget the most important piece: you. A happy, healthy parent is just as important as a fed baby. When you're stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed, your baby can feel that. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s foundational. Your mental and emotional health matter every bit as much as bottles and burp cloths.
Did you read that -- taking care of YOURSELF IS NOT SELFISH, IT IS FOUNDATIONAL!!!
So if no one’s told you today: you’re doing an amazing job.
Next time I am going to talk more about formulas and such, and also about the gap that I TWO MILLION percent think is out there for moms.... There is such a vital piece missing between OBGYN and Pediatrician, for mamas.
I must be off for now, my buns are about to come out the oven... just my experiment in croissants, not to worry.
Joyfully,
Sara